I’m always amazed at how much Fox and Rabbit brides are juggling on top of the craziness of planning their wedding.
– There’s the cake. Naked? Fondant? Cheese?!?
– Finding THE ONE DRESS TO END ALL DRESSES
– Choosing a photographer and crossing each and every extremity in anticipation of their availability
– Booking the venue. Tasting and refining the menu
– Hiring a stylist to bring all of your dreams to life
– Seating charts
– Bridesmaid dress hunting
And like school children sitting at the back of the bus, full of excitement and adrenaline – merrily singing a round on the way to a sports carnival…
The wedding to-do list goes on and on. Round and a round. Over and over and over again. And then it grows.
AND ON TOP OF ALL OF THIS – You’re building a house.
Or moving house. Or selling a house. Or house hunting. Or house decorating. Or pinning pictures of your future house with your future hubby for your future children and your future black Spoodle that comes fully toilet trained and knows how to sit, shake hands, lay down, roll over and give high 10’s.
You’re pregnant. Or planning a baby. Or trying to keeping up with your 3 existing babies.
You’re studying. Or at least you should be studying instead of wallowing in a pot of self-pity because you can’t close down that Hello May tab and finish those darn references. Wallow, wallow, wallow.
And forget about date night! Who has time for that when you still have to pick a dress, study for that exam, read all those baby books, decide on a honeymoon destination and paint that new kitchen door a rich canary yellow!? If you were to take a second to stop and look your handsome groom-to-be in the face for a moment, it would all fall to a catastrophic mess – wouldn’t it?
Do you know how you learn to juggle? You start small. Practise one ball at a time. Adding in a second and then a third ONLY when you know that you can handle it. Juggling is a process and it’s all about keeping your eye on the prize. In this case your prize is your husband. And your new home together. And your new baby. And your awesome new career.
Plan a bloody good party. Be the talk of the social media scene. Just don’t kill yourself in the process. Don’t lose sight of what’s really important. Keep your eye on the prize and show your prize the love and attention it deserves. Because future you won’t look back and say “I wish I spent less time with my fiancé and more time online collecting two million bonbonniere ideas that I’ll never end up making.”
You shouldn’t expect yourself to know how to juggle like a pro when everything is new. You shouldn’t expect yourself to know what to do all of the time when this is the first wedding you have planned!
And DIY’s shouldn’t get in the way of eating a decent dinner.
Because ending up in the McDonalds drive through at 11pm covered in glue gun fluff only makes you feel sad.
Try new stuff
Accept new responsibility
And juggle away
Allow yourself to drop the ball once in a while and have a cry about it. BUT GET BACK UP AND TRY AGAIN. The best part of it all is; you have a good team around you who knows what they are doing.
And honey this ain’t our first juggling lesson.